Help me think through whether to stay or leave {{job / relationship / city / situation}}. I'm not looking for permission — I'm trying to think clearly.
What's pulling me to leave:
{{honest answers — what's missing, broken, or wrong}}
What's keeping me here:
{{honest answers — what's working, the costs of leaving, fears}}
What I'd be moving toward:
{{the alternative — concrete or hypothetical}}
Walk me through:
1. **The actual question** — am I deciding "should I leave" or "should I stay"? Those have different defaults.
2. **The reversibility** — if I leave and it's wrong, can I come back? If not, that raises the bar.
3. **The friend test** — if a friend told me this exact situation, what would I tell them?
4. **What I'm probably underweighting** — sunk cost, fear of change, identity attachment, etc.
5. **What I'm probably overweighting** — fantasy of the alternative, recency bias on bad days
6. **The smallest move** that earns me information without committing — sometimes the answer is "test the alternative for 3 months."
Don't tell me what to do. Tell me what I should know about how I'm thinking.decisionslife choicesreflection